On Being Vulnerable

I've spent years being “fine” Heck, that's why I went to holistic school — so I could help others because I was fine!

So, it was quite a surprise when I realized I wasn't.

Somewhere along the road I made the decision to be strong, to not let people's words and judgments hurt me — and of course always act like I was fine. I couldn't let anyone know that I was hurt or lonely.

Being vulnerable was death, as far as I was concerned.

I have a different view of that today. Being vulnerable makes me feel alive and connected, human in the best sense — that is, when I allow myself to go there. It's still difficult sometimes. We are talking years of this habit!

• I am the client; I understand the fear of being vulnerable.
• I am the healer; I feel the love and joy at being present when someone lets their guard down and trusts me enough to be vulnerable.

From both of these places something special happens. A connection that we are all in this together and we are not alone in our thinking and feeling. Fear seems to lessen or vanish all together.

I know a lot of men and woman out there are trying to hold it all together for each other or their children — even for their parents. The pressure is building and the last thing they want to do is let anyone know they can't handle it because somewhere they learned they had to be strong and perfect.

Being vulnerable, sharing your fears, can relieve that pressure. Find someone you trust and feel safe with. Allow yourself to let go. Give yourself the gift of really feeling human and connected. You are not alone.

Sincerely,

Lori Barnett, HHP
Email: lori@soul-escape.biz
Web site: www.soul-escape.biz
Phone: (858) 382-4576

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